Hi Grandma Maggie,

Hi! I am a 27 year old deaf female. I have 3 beautiful children who are 6, 3 and 1 years old. I found out I am pregnant with my 4th child few days ago. I am 2 months pregnant. I worried so much about miscarriage because I went through two miscarriages and that’s why I am afraid to miscarry another one. I want to stop thinking of miscarriage. How? My husband says have faith and you will have a beautiful baby on the way. Also, I am afraid of finding another boy on the way. My husband and I wanted to have another girl. We both have 2 boys and 1 girl. I am raising the kids on my own since my husband is in Korea and I am not sure when he is coming back home from Korea for good. Do you think I will be fine with this 4th child? I hope so! I don’t want to lose the baby this time. It is my last child.

I hope to get your advice,


Dear Christy,

The reality is I cannot assure you of not having a miscarriage. When you decided to have a fourth child it was a chance you knew existed. Also, when one decides to have a baby, it’s a baby (not a boy or a girl) that you decide upon. As of yet, the gender cannot be specified.

My best,

Grandma Maggie



Peggy Moss (she/her), AKA "Grandma Maggie," was was a partner in BabyNames.com after she retired as an early childhood educator. Her Q&A column "Ask Grandma Maggie" is now republished with the best of Grandma Maggie’s parenting and childcare advice. She has written many eBooks about parenting issues, available at Amazon.com.

Peggy, who passed in 2014, was mother to Sue, Kate, Jennifer, and Mallory Moss, and grandmother to Ike, Peter, Miranda, and Veronica.