* If the two children will not be in close proximity, i.e. not live in the same community, not share schools or friends–then it’s not an issue.
* If the two children do not share the same surname, then it’s not an issue.
* If you had made clear your baby name choice and a close relative uses it before you–close meaning a sibling or next-door cousin–then they’re just jerks! Stick to your guns and use it, anyway, following the two points above.
So, yes, stop being heartbroken and use your intended name! I’m happy to hear from others who have actually gone through this with their relatives or BFFs.
Jennifer Moss (she/her) is the founder of BabyNames.com, author of The Baby Names Workbook, and Producer of The Baby Names Podcast. Jennifer is widely regarded as the leading expert on popular baby name trends and the naming process, serving as the authoritative source on the subject for national and international media.
Jennifer entered the tech arena in the 80s as a software developer and database architect, and became a pioneer in the Internet industry. In addition to operating BabyNames.com, Jennifer owns a web development agency in central California.